There are many red flags that you may be in an abusive relationship. I have chosen some here to explain. I will make other posts that go over other red flags.
Excessive and quick commitment to relationships.
Narcissists are like hunters. They see what they want and they take it. Whereas most people will be cautious when choosing a long term partner, the narcissist will seemingly decide that you are ” The One” right away. There is no time of getting to know you. The usual amount of time from one level of the relationship to the next level are ignored completely. You date a few times and then they talk about moving in with you. They are very quick to asking you to be exclusive with them.
Extremely possessive and jealous, confused with love
The narcissist does not love you, they own you. They tell you that they are protecting you for your own good, by limiting and controlling who you talk to and who you socialize with. It is not unusual for them to tell you not to wear makeup when you go out. This is because they do not want other guys even looking at you. Most guys take pride in showing off their beautiful woman, but narcissist men.
Do you have to check in with them every hour? Do they need to know where you are and how long you will be there? Do they become upset if you made a stop on the way home that they were not aware of? Narcissists have to know where you are at all times.
Narcissists will demand your time, even when you want or need to do something else. They will interfere with your sleep, your studying, preparing things for your job, your social life, your yoga class and your me time. They will not be there for you when you need them to be. They will set clear boundaries about their sleep, their work schedule and whatever is important to them. Their things are important but your are not.
Extreme sense of entitlement
There is an extreme sense of entitlement. This is one of the things you can possibly pick up on, early in the relationship. You will see them become angered when their co-worker gets promoted over them. They expect to be treated better than any other customer at the restaurant. They feel entitled to things that other people get, even when they do not deserve them. This will flow into your relationship when you want to spend time with friends and your partner feels entitled to that time. They will not negotiate or compromise things. When they do not get what they want , they become angry.