This is an excellent video that talks about how they have the power to define everything. They create the definitions and the terms. They decide what the proper level of response is to things.
She talks about how he told her she was a burden when she was in a wheel chair. He way over exaggerated the level of a burden that she was. She believed him because she could see that the statement of her being a burden could possibly be true. But he exaggerated it and used it for an excuse to abuse her.
She goes into the other lies that they tell. The manipulate you and lie to your face.
She is an easy speaker to listen to because she is calm and has a pleasant way about her. I know you will enjoy the video.
Trigger warning —violence , suicide, threats