There are narcissists that also have anti-social personality. What the extra element is, if you were dealing up close with psychopathy, is that they get an elevation from being sadistic.
Anti-social personality is what the accepted term now is for psychopath. The other term people mix around and interchange with these is sociopath.
Pick your poison, you are dealing with someone who intentionally inflicts pain, be it physical, emotional or psychological.
The narcissistic psychopath inflicts pain just to see you suffer. They feel powerful when they can make you suffer with no other reason that to do it.
Narcissists inflict pain in order to make you fear feeling that emotional pain, because this makes you more compliant. If you suffer through their emotional punishments like silent treatment or dissappearing from your radar for days or weeks on end, then you will do anything to avoid those punishments in the future.
Once the narcissist has trained you by inflicting emotional pain on you, then you become more compliant with what they want, or ask you for. You fear disagreeing with them, joking with them or doing anything but wait to find out what they want.
The narcissist trains you with punishment. Their training is painful. They threaten abuse, in order to keep you compliant also.
But the narcissist that is co-morbid with psychopathy will cause you mental injury, emotional pain, because they like to.
If your ex seemed to cause pain to you, or if they broke up with you in a way that was cruel and unusual. ..did all they could to make it as painful for you as possible…even though there was no strategic gain for them..it did not get them any additional narcissistic supply….
Then it is possible that you were with someone who was far darker and more dangerous that you thought.
This should be a very good reason for you to stay no contact. You very well may be underestimating the danger of the person you were with.
If you are with someone that fits these criteria and has these behaviors, please find a safe way out. Then stay no contact. It is not worth the risk you are taking to stay.
These people are insidious and live in the dark world in their minds. I do not want you anywhere near them.
Blessings and wishes for your peace of mind and safety,