This is a topic that comes up frequently.The target’s lack of ability to recognize that the narcissist’s treatment of us is abusive. October is domestic violence/abuse awareness month. Many lay people believe that domestic violence is only those actions that involve the physical abuse of an intimate partner.
For those of us who have been physically abused by anyone, we can tell you that if you remove the physical abuse from the relationship, what remains, are a number of other abusive behaviors: psychological, verbal, spiritual, financial, legal and sexual that continue to occur long after the physical abuse has ceased. The general lack of physical lashing out by a narcissist (probably only to protect their own court records or reputation criminally/socially, etc.) does NOT mean that abuse is not happening.
Let’s define abuse to remove any doubt. Domestic abuse is a pattern of behavior which involves the perpetration of power & control…
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