Please know that violence tends to escalate. It begins with control and manipulation with a threat of retaliation for non compliance.
Someone physically blocking you or stopping you from leaving the room or the house is an early red flag. Violence comes in increasing stages.
Violence can begin or end with psychological violence….the raping of the soul. If your identity is being stripped away or you are forced to hide your true self, then you are under diress.
Someone who is controlling you with fear is dangerous to you on every level. Even if tbey never strike you physically, if they are violating your core being then you need to escape.
Physical violence escalates each time. If tbey are punching walls and breaking your things, it is an intentional tactic to instill fear in you.
These are terror tactics just like terrorists use…only you are the target.
What is a good excuse for hitting you, bruising you, or physically intimidating you in any way? There is none.
The very act of them coming up with excuses…such as you made them angry, they had a bad day or they had too much to drink….tells you that they are very dangerous.
Them making excuses means that there is always an excusable reason for violence and it will happen again.
There is no excuse for domestic violence or partner abuse. None.
Draw your boundaries and stick to them.