Society has conditioned us to stay in abusive relationships. The marriage vow is “for better for worse” and this mentality is often used by the churches and the families of victims, to send them back into the abusive relationship.
I have clients that have told me about pastors and counselors that have told them that relationships are 50 – 50, and if there is something wrong it is equally both partners’ responsibility. These victims are given some kind of advice about how to be a better partner, and then sent right back to the dangerous person rather than getting the support they need to leave the abuser.
Families and friends of victims are often the same way. They remind the person about the commitment they made, and that “everything is not always roses”. They have no idea what it is like to live in an abusive relationship, or how…
View original post 110 more words
Not everyone who is cruel is a narcissist. Not everyone with whom we disagree is a narcissist. While it is helpful for us to have a category by which we can try to understand the crazy-makers of our lives, narcissism is a rather specific designation. So it is important to be reminded occasionally of the actual definition of narcissism.
About once a year I like to repost a definition that I think is helpful. New readers may see narcissism more clearly in the person(s) they deal with, or they may decide this has been a wrong track. Either way, I think it is good for us to have something that helps to keep us on track.
So, here you go…
What is a narcissist?
It’s Narcissist Friday!
Unfortunately the meanings of words adapt to common usage. A narcissist used to be someone who fit a certain psychological pattern determined…
View original post 1,002 more words