Once you begin to study narcissism and psychopathy, you begin to realize how many narcissists you have crossed paths with over the years.
The behaviors of pathological people are often hard to understand. You are likely to leave interactions with them feeling confused and crushed down.
When you are interacting with a narcissist, your thoughts and feelings are discounted. Any reasoning you try to do with them is met with a brick wall.
It is often better not to even give them reasons for your thoughts and feelings. Giving them reasons, just causes them to laugh at, mimimize and disregard you as a person.
They like to train you not to try to reason with them. They do not want to hear any side of things other than their own.
They will train you with rewards and punishments…. but mostly punishments. You will get anxiety when you even think about trying to get them to hear your side of a situation.
The narcissist will systematically train you to associate negative feelings with discussing anything with them. After having to feel embarrassed, insignificant, dumb, and guilty from repeated interactions with them, your brain will activate the fight or flight mode when you are picturing a conversation with them.
In your mind, you can play out scenarios. You can run through scenes in your head, based on different ways you can approach them and different things you can say to get them to see your side. But these scenes will always play out with the narcissistic getting the upper hand.
They will twist your words around. They will intentionally misconstrue what you are saying. They will use selective hearing, to miss important details of what you say.
You will find your reasons minimized pr disregarded, even if they are based on research that you can show them. They will not look at any proof you have, to back uo your reasons.
Your feelings will always be discounted and you will be made to feel that you have no right to ask them to consider your feelings.
Narcissists have no respect for your boundaries. They do not care how situations will affect you. You simply do not matter to them.