The Law of Entropy is defined by google as follows:
lack of order or predictability; gradual decline into disorder.
“a marketplace where entropy reigns supreme”
deterioration, degeneration, crumbling,decline, degradation, decomposition,breaking down, collapse
The concept of the Law of Entropy is that everything decays, deteriorates, gets weaker, or falls apart over time.
Narcissists believe that relationships follow this Law Of Entropy. They know in their minds that a y relationship is doomed to end after a period of slow torturous crumbling. The only question to them is who is in control of the deterioration as opposed to who will be surprised by it.
Narcissists choose to be the one who ends relationships before the other person can leave first. If the other person ended the relationship this would invalidate the narcissist’s need to be all powerful, all knowing and all desirable and sought after.
If anyone is going to end a relationship, it is going to be them.
Particularly narcissists that are co-morbid with borderline personality disorder fear abandonment. Being abandoned could inflict pain and the narcissist wants to be the one who is in charge of any pain that is to be inflicted.
They take this Law of Entropy a step further and twist it into something that is sadistic. As long as the relationship is doomed and the victim is going to “turn on them” eventually anyway, the narcissistic psychopath will make the “devaluation stage” which is leading up to the discard, as painful and slow as humanly possible.
The devaluation phase will not only prove the Law of Entropy…it will take it to a whole new level. This is the design of the narcissist and the psychopath.
The relationship not only decays slowly and painfully, but the victim is broken down bit by bit psychologically so that when the “Zombie Witch Doctor” leaves the victim, they are a broken shell of who they once were.
The term “Zombie Witchdoctor” was coined by Richard Grannon and you can click on the term to watch the video where he describes this in detail. This is a great video that I would recommend you watch. It is not too long and you will see a new perspective on this issue of how narcissists break the victim down psychologically, as well as emotionally.
The Law of Entropy is learned by the victim. They are broken down emotionally, psychologically, financially, cognitively, and physically.
They are left with PTSD and a compromised immune system that causes them to develop sicknesses and sometimes disease.
*Personally, I was hospitalized for infection of internal organs three times after my relationship with a psychopathic narcissist. In addition I was in the emergency room with life threatening infections at least 6 times within a 6 month period.
The body does not escape the abuse, even if there is no physical striking, punching, kicking or bruising that can be seen by the naked eye.
When there are severe levels of trauma, and ongoing periods of forced fear, the body is flooded with too much cortisol and other stress hormones.
Check out this article about Cortisol and Adrenal Function.
The victim’s cognitive function is been broken down along with their ability to work and function the way they used to be able to.
The skills needed to get up, dust yourself off and recover from financial devastation are lacking. The narcissist will leave the victim in the worst financial state that they are able to. This adds to the suffering and the continued mental interference of the victim by the abuser.
The Law of Entropy states that things will continue to break down over time, until there is nothing useful left of them or they die. ‘
The narcissist wants to leave the victim is an ongoing state of deterioration, so that they will continue to get worse after the narcissist is long gone from the scene.
They may even check in with you just to see how you are doing, in the hopes to hear how broken you are and how much of a affect they had on you. This makes them feel all powerful and enforces their grandiose sense of self.
Not only does the narcissist see relationships in relation to the Law of Entropy, they also see their pathological space this way too. The term pathological space was coined by Sam Vaknin. I recommend that you watch his video about this topic HERE.
The narcissist tends to move more frequently than other people. Over time their narcissistic environment is likely to break down because of all the wreckage in the lives of people that have interacted with the narcissist.
Once the people in the area have become wise to the tactics of the narcissist, he can no longer play his game and has to move on. People may be actively trying to undermine him or otherwise seeking to out a stop to his evil games.
The narcissistic psychopath will move on to a new location… probably a new state.
They will line up narcissistic supply ahead of time by visiting the new place and setting up their reputation there.
They will begin their love bombing and otherwise setting up the illusion about their false self that they want to be perceived.
They leave the broken down previous pathological space behind and simply move on to a new life.
In this new life they might re-invent their false self or tweak their mask. Whatever will work to gain narcissistic supply in the new pathological space is what they will portray.
And so it is with the narcissist and the psychopath. The Law on Entropy is one of things that drives their decisions.
They protect themselves and plan for the deterioration of their sources of narcissistic supply because they are like a vampire…and sooner or later….they will suck the blood from too many of the people in their narcissistic space, hence ruining the entire town, state, or area, for themselves.
Once it is used up, the narcissist will abandon the pathological space and never look back. The people they leave behind are “out of sight, out of mind” as far as the narcissist is concerned.