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Really Neat Blog Award

real neat blog award

Thank you to  Hummingbird Redemption for nomination this blog for the Real Neat Blog Award.

The Rules Are

1. Put the award logo on your blog.

2. Answer 7 questions asked by the person who nominated you.

3. Thank the people who nominated you, linking to their blogs.

4. Nominate any number of bloggers you like, linking to their blogs.

5. Let them know you nominated them (by commenting on their blog etc.)

My Nominees Are

Chaos, Cats and Chronic Pain

After Narcissistic Abuse

A Chronic Pain Life

All Things Chronic

Battered Wife Seeks Better

Healing From Complex Trauma and C-PTSD / CPTSD

Blahpolar Diaries

Bipolar 1 Blog

Healing Beyond Survival

Deanne’s  World

Lie to Me

Loving a Sociopath

My Life Within


Narcissism. Grief, Recovery, Yiddishkeit

Financial Abuse is Domestic Violence

My Questions for my Nominees

  1. Do you see yourself as introverted or extroverted?
  2. What do you do for relaxation?
  3. Do you have a favorite movie (or movies)?
  4. Do you have any pets?
  5. How long have you been blogging?
  6. How often do you read other blogs?
  7. Tell us something you want to share about yourself
  1. What was the last concert you’ve been to? I have not been able to afford any concerts lately. The last one I would have went to might have been Eric Clapton about 20 years ago. Unless you count the free concerts in the park they have in the area which I went to a few years ago.
  2. Your favorite song?  Don’t You worry Bout  a Thing by Stevie Wonder which is one of the songs in Silver Linings 
  3. What annoys you the most? People with no empathy and people who do not respect other people’s boundaries
  4. Your favorite food? Seafood and Italian food
  5. What freaks you out? My ex mother in law waiting around the corner, on my only way out of the house, to bother me about something and not care if I am late to work or an appt.
  6. Fashion or sport? Fashion
  7. What can you hardly say no to (or whom)? My daughters and my bunny
  8. Sweet or sour or both? I am more a savoury girl.
  9. Red, white or bubbly? I prefer a good hearty red.
  10. Would you rather be the superhero or the sidekick? Superhero!
  11. What kind of superpower would you like to have? Healing 
domestic abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, life, mental abuse, mental health, narcissism, narcissistic abuse syndrome, narcissistic victim abuse syndrome, PTSD from mental abuse, triangulating

Realizing the Many Ways the Narcissist Intentionally Interfered with Your Reality

Mental abuse can be endured for years before you realize that it is abuse at all The first dawning realization that their  behaviors are intentional is traumatizing.

After the initial realization that the abuser has been intentionally interfering with our sense of reality and feeding all kind of lies, it is followed by a series of many other light bulbs going off in our heads.

There were so many times that they denied things that we thought might be happening and we believed them. There were so many times when odd things seemed to occur or things that did not make sense and we just ignored them or the narcissist reframed them in such a way that we just took their word for it.

The process of going back over these incidents, with the new found knowledge that we have gained from educating ourselves about narcissistic tactics, can be retraumatizing. Each and every scenario that we now see the truth of, is heartbreaking or angering.

Many of us have gone through this process. This video is to validate you if you are in the midst of this or if you went through it years ago. Sometimes even years later we come to some realization about something that occurred that we believed the abuser about, but the reality of what happened was completely different than the narcissist told us it was.

If you have recently been discarded by a narcissist then this video will give you a heads up about what is going to happen in the next several weeks to you. Be prepared for the memories to come back to you and to see events that you believed to be one way, to have been malicious lies by the narcissist, and even manufactured situations in order to torment you.

The narcissist keeps you in the dark about their other life and about other relationships which they are involved in. They manufacture situations called triangulating just to cause you to feel jealous, threatened, and to lower your self esteem. The lower your self esteem is, the easier they can control you.

As you process what happened to you , it will be shocking and disturbing how many times and how many people they used to manipulate your sense of reality. In many cases, especially with covert narcissists , they intentionally and skillfully put suggestions into your head that you have mental illness.

If you already have some mental disorder, they will play on that and make it the cause of your “not remembering things” properly. They will say it is because of your mental illness that you are paranoid about their activities. They will tell you that your memory is bad and that your memory of things they said, and things they did is not correct.