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Darkness After Narcissistic Abuse

Your brokenness after narcissistic abuse is not a reflection of any weakness in you. You saw darkness up close and such a level of darkness is contrary to your nature.

The narcissist intentionally mislead you about who they are, just to exploit you. They shared tender moments with you and caused you to be vulnerable in front of them.

They pretended to be vulnerable with you. They made up stories and lies to get your sympathy and attention. They did all of this to drink your soul.

Any compassionate person that tries to bring light into another person’s life, and then finds out that the person they fell in love with was a lie, would experience a period of brokenness.

The narcissist causes victims a soul sickness, by extracting emotions from you, by methods you did not consent to.

You are going to feel broken for a period of time. Then you will begin to feel better….Then a new realization will come upon you about the narcissist that you had not considered…and you will feel like a weight has dropped upon your chest again.

You may come up and down several times, as the “red pills” keep coming and choking your throat. But you will be walking ever forward on your path to greater strength and greater clarity.

Narcissistic abuse is extreme suffering, but it will revitalize you as you learn greater ways of self love. You will learn to assert boundaries and you will learn to pay careful attention to how people communicate with you.

Victims will end up better off thsn their abuser will end up. You will realize over time  that you have power over your reality. ..while the narcissist will always be ruled and controlled by their reality.

You are not alone. Keep your loving heart alive. There are people worth sharing it with. Now you will be able to gain the tools to differentiate between narcisdistic psychopaths and people with their own inner light…which the narcissist lacks.

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Brain Fog From Narcissistic Abuse

If you are living in a domestic abuse situation, or living with a pathological narcissist, you might have the feeling you are existing in a fog. Your brain feels slow to process the world around you.

This brain fog state is caused by C-PTSD from mental abuse. Your mind is being intentionally manipulated and your cognitive processing is being slowed down.

Our brains are our own. They were not designed to tolerate other people intentionally, and systematically changing what we see, think, feel and perceive. The narcissist gets into your hard drive and loads viruses into your brain.

These viruses keep working continuously, even when the narcissist or psychopath is not presently with you.

This feeling of being in a fog, can last long after the abusive situation has ended. Your brain has conflicting programming, just like people who have been brainwashed by a cult.

The brainwashing tactics of the psychopathic narcissist are the same as the ones that have been used by cult leaders for so many years. Sleep deprivation, shared psychosis, and cognitive dissonance are just some of these methods.

You need to sleep. The sleep deprivation will keep your brain from being able to re-boot. You cannot begin to see clearly without enough sleep.

You need to take some control over some aspect of your life. Even if it is a small thing, like doing yoga before bed for 15 minutes, or taking a shower every other day at 7 pm, your brain needs to be told that you are the one driving the bus.

You need to calm down the fight-or-flight alarms. Yoga can help or any kind of physical activity you like. Calming activities that help you focus on the present moment, like coloring, crafts, hobbies, walking etc, can help.

Hypnosis for C-PTSD from narcissistic abuse can be very helpful. I have used this successfully with my life coaching clients.

I am currently working on a series of audios for this. If you want to be on the list to be notified when I release them, feel free to leave a comment on this post.

The brain fog from narcissistic abuse is not something you can just snap out of. One of the reasons for it is that your brain is trying to protect you from further trauma. It is a kind of emotional shock that your brain is in.

Your senses have been dulled, in order to reduce the effects of any further traumatic events. The fight or flight mode also has another element, which is “freeze mode”.

This brain fog state is like a freeze mode that the brain goes into, because it senses danger and threat. Your brain is always trying to protect you, so be gentle and treat yourself with compassion and acceptance.

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Narcissist Mind Manipulation Reality Altering

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Aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse and Problems with Executive Function

PTSD from being is an ongoing abusive relationship can cause problems with remembering things, paying attention and focusing. You feel like you are lost in a fog and that part of your brain is gone. It is hard to do normal tasks that are usually no problem at all.

This feeling of being in a fog is not uncommon with PTSD. You will be reading something and then end up having to re-read the same paragraph three times and still not know what you read.  You might have trouble following simple verbal or written directions. You feel like you are coming down with Alzheimer’s disease.

Many people that experience this brain fog are afraid to say anything about it.  You probably feel like no one would understand and it is also hard to describe.

Have you ever looked while you were driving and had no idea where you were? This happened to me several times during the first couple of months after my abusive relationship ended. It was scary and I felt like I was going crazy.

This brain fog is weird and scary. You wonder if it will go away and when it will stop. Are you stuck like this feeling stupid and unable to function forever?

Usually this is a temporary response to severe PTSD after an abusive relationship. It will probably go away. It does help to know that you are not the only one.

This brain fog is a result of the brain changes that occur when your brain is experiencing  trauma.  Certain parts of the brain are now on overload, like the amygdala which is in charge of the “fight or flight” mode. Your brain is on constant alert scanning the environment for threats and danger.

Our brains were not designed to be in a constant ongoing state of alert like this. The “fight or flight” mode is designed to be on for a few minutes in order to prepare you for dealing with a dangerous situation. It is not supposed to endure a situation like being in a constant state of threat by an abusive person.

The “Executive Function” is the part of the brain that controls functions that have to do with organizing, managing tasks, creating and following steps to get something done and focusing on what you are doing. People with a low executive function will have trouble paying attention and focusing.

When the amygdala is in a constant “On Mode” , other parts of the brain are affected and end up working at a less functional level. The executive function effectively “takes a hit for the team.”

With your executive function down you will have trouble with many things including concentrating, following directions and having a clear mind.

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Learn the Red Flags of Narcissistic Abuse

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How to Trust People Again and How to Know Who to Trust after Narcissistic Abuse

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Narcissists Create the Illusion that Your World is Small and You Have No Options

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Lies, Truth and Insanity

Twisted shadows of questionable reality

invade my darkest nightmares

The lies you told and realities you denied

still exist 

Somewhere in my mind

The existence of  both true reality and malicious reality

Both pulling on different sides of my sanity

The different masks you wore to deceive 

The compassion you manufactured to confuse

Are all tangled in my brain like a spiders web

of lies, truth and insanity