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Socialized Psychopaths

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Psychopaths are 1 in 25 people. That is a high number.

They are disguised as regular people….pillars of the community….coaches of your kid’s sports team….pastors of your church….your therapist….the local police officer….your surgeon…..your date from Match.com…

Learn the signs of psychopaths. Educate yourself about the red flags, their tactics, and the way they manipulate their prey. They think with their reptilian brain….you are the prey and they are the predator. 

Psychopaths only blend in because people do not know what they are looking at, and they dismiss the signs even when they are right in front of them. 

Stay safe and keep your kids safe. Psychopaths can be charming and they know how to press your emotional buttons. They get into your mind by eliciting emotional reactions from you. 

These are people that you do not want to allow into your life. Once they are in, it can be hard to get rid of them. They retaliate on people that reject them in ways that you cannot imagine, unless it has happened to you. 

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Psychopaths in Society

This is a great interview with Thomas Sheridan about psychopaths in society. He taks about how psychopaths target empaths, because compassionate, empathic people will feel sorry for them, when they tell you that initial sob story. They will tell you a story that they either make up, or exaggerate about how abused they have been , or some trauma in their life. 

Then they will judge your reaction. They know how an empath will react to a story like that, and they evaluate their prey in this way.

They suck the energy and life force of empaths, in addition to manipulating you in order to get things from you. 

He also discusses how psychopaths are parasites. They need to attach to enablers, codependents, and empaths, in order to feed off of your energy. They are sadistic and get pleasure from creating chaos and trauma in your life. 

He also talks about the red flags to identify a psychopath. He talks about word salad and other language techniques. The are charming and mirror the qualities you want and the your core values. They want to jump into a relationship with a partner very fast, so that there is no time for the victim to recognize who they are. 

He explains the way they use different masks, and they do not take any responsibility for things they did when they were using another mask. They never admit guilt for anything they do.

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Mirroring Techniques and Other Methods / Narcissistic Abuse Idealization Phase of the Narcissist

This is a video of a class taught by David Snyder. David Snyder teaches NLP hypnosis and also Dating and Attraction. He is also a martial arts teacher.

This video can be helpful to you in two ways. I want to explain to you how what he is teaching in this video can be used for good or for evil intentions.

These techniques are about mirroring the person, repeating back to them what they say, and drawing out conversation from them about their feelings and experiences. He gives you very good methods for doing these things and how to draw someone into talking to you about themselves.

People love talking about themselves with someone who they perceive cares about what they are saying. If you use these techniques with someone, you can get them to talk about themselves to you in many cases. Nothing is fool proof but I have tried these techniques and they are effective.

If you have social anxiety , PTSD, or trouble approaching someone and talking to someone you are interested in, then you will find value in what David Snyder teaches in this class. This is using it for good.

But on the other side of morality…these are the very kinds of techniques that the narcissist / psychopath uses to lure their prey. They mirror your words, phrases, and body language. They make you feel a connection with them this way.

They draw you into the conversation and get you to tell them all kinds of things about yourself very early into the relationship. Normally you probably would not tell someone the level of personal things that you ended up telling the narcissist.

Check this out so that you can recognize when someone is mirroring you, repeating words back to you etc. It does not mean that they are a narcissist. They might be a good person that is really interested in you.

If you recognize that someone is doing these techniques then turn things around and see if you can reverse the conversation. Become the one who is doing the mirroring , repeating words back and draw them out to tell you about themselves.

See what response you get once you begin to control the conversation. If they are really interested in you then they will be happy to fall into this with you. They will tell you about themselves and not press you about talking things that you do not want to talk about.

Be careful what you tell someone early in a relationship, especially if you just met them. Make sure you are volunteering information that you want to share at that time. If it feels too early then it probably is. Go with your intuition.

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Narcissistic Anti-social Darkness

There are narcissists that also have anti-social personality. What the extra element is, if you were dealing up close with psychopathy, is that they get an elevation from being sadistic.

Anti-social personality is what the accepted term now is for psychopath. The other term people mix around and interchange with these is sociopath.

Pick your poison, you are dealing with someone who intentionally inflicts pain, be it physical,  emotional or psychological.

The narcissistic psychopath inflicts pain just to see you suffer. They feel powerful when they can make you suffer with no other reason that to do it.

Narcissists inflict pain in order to make you fear feeling that emotional pain, because this makes you more compliant.  If you suffer through their emotional punishments like silent treatment or dissappearing from your radar for days or weeks on end, then you will do anything to avoid those punishments in the future.

Once the narcissist has trained you by inflicting emotional pain on you, then you become more compliant with what they want, or ask you for. You fear disagreeing with them, joking with them or doing anything but wait to find out what they want.

The narcissist trains you with punishment.  Their training is painful.  They threaten abuse, in order to keep you compliant also.

But the narcissist that is co-morbid with psychopathy will cause you mental injury, emotional pain, because they like to.

If your ex seemed to cause pain to you, or if they broke up with you in a way that was cruel and unusual. ..did all they could to make it as painful for you as possible…even though there was no strategic gain for them..it did not get them any additional narcissistic supply….

Then it is possible that you were with someone who was far darker and more dangerous that you thought.

This should be a very good reason for you to stay no contact.  You very well may be underestimating the danger of the person you were with.

If you are with someone that fits these criteria and has these behaviors,  please find a safe way out. Then stay no contact.  It is not worth the risk you are taking to stay.

These people are insidious and live in the dark world in their minds. I do not want you anywhere near them.

Blessings and wishes for your peace of mind and safety,

Annie